This past weekend I heard the two phrases that have become de rigueur when a woman meets a man and he has no initial, or continuing, interest in her:"I am/was too strong for him;" and "I am too intimidating for him"
No matter how beautiful or accomplished they may be, women do not intimidate men. We simply are not drawn to those that don't trigger our primal urge to protect and nurture them.
Consider what a woman feels when she sees a baby: It's cute, cuddly, and in need of care, attention, protection and nurturance -- which she is eager to provide. If, instead, the baby had a full beard, fangs, and crawled around snarling, "I'll get my own bottle; you just change my diapers when they get dirty," a woman would not consider it cute or desirable.
When a man meets a woman with a cute, cuddly personality, and whom he feels compelled to protect and nurture, his urge is to pick her up, hug her, protect her from the world's evil, and support her every endeavor. If, instead, the woman enunciates her independence, has an anti-feminine demeanor, and relegates men as drones for her dirty work, a man would not consider her cute or desirable.
Ask any man who has wasted time with a selfish, inappropriate woman, "Why?" He will reveal that it was her endearing, girly, vulnerable personality and demeanor. (This is especially true of "Captain Save-A-Ho" types who believe they can rescue strippers, prostitutes, or other bad girls from their chosen fates.)
There is no shame in being a woman. Femininity is not a weakness. Living up to her potential does not mean a woman must morph into a man.
There are three simple rules for attracting, and keeping a (happy) man:
1.) Ignite his protective, nurturing instinct. 2.) Never say "No" to sex without a good reason. 3.) Respect his need for personal time for hobbies and other creative endeavors.
A man will tolerate nearly anything a woman does if she obeys rules 1 and 2. He will give her a blank check if she additionally obeys rule 3.
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